There are a lot of us that maybe in a situation when we feel that we are stuck into something and we know that we can still do more but feel like my hands were tied to becoming that “Someone”. I myself have been into a situation wherein I feel like I want to do more but I am in a dilemma of what I really want. I had a stable 9-5 job but I am in a position wherein I can feel that I am not in my full potential and growth is just an option. Little did I know that it was just me who suppresses everything to begin with.
Of all the things that came to me, I’m glad that I discovered and was open enough to realize that I needed help and that’s where I had my life coaching session almost a year ago.I never realized that I am living with fear.
All of the realizations took place when I had my life coach. Truly, I can say that it was a life saver. I really thought that everyday for me is fine. I had so many heartaches from my past relationships and frustration of not getting the career that I really wanted, thinking that job stability would always be the basis of a good career and I guess I have to live with it and somehow accept the fact that I’m not good enough to be on that role that I dreamed of. I also think that maybe things will change in the future as I don’t want to blame myself anymore and think that things are not really meant for me. “ If I can’t have it, then maybe it’s time to let go.”
Having a Life coach gave me so much wisdom and enlightenment. The best thing that she has ever taught me was to face my own fear as it has controlled me over the years and now I discovered ways on how to deal with it.
My Life Coach initially gave an assessment about my perception on things and deep dive on what are the things that caused my anxiety. I was able to tell her the things that I wasn’t able to tell anyone, not even to my closest friend. She was able to handle things with full confidentiality, professionalism and respect, without any judgment or whatsoever.
Since I’ve been living with fear for such a long time, I never realize that I have a bunch of excuses and defense mechanisms that seem to act as my pillow to comfort me and just settle for something less than what I deserve.
The coaching technique has helped me open my eyes to a lot of options that I never really thought of. After determining the cause of my fear and anxiety, we started to remove my excuses. Excuses that held my entire life which pushed back all the life I should be living in.
Knowing that I live in fear, my coach also made me realize that I am also living a life full of regrets but chose to conceal it by accepting defeat and using my great wall of defense mechanism and just settle for something less than what I really want.
She gave me a picture of a better mindset. Enduring the pain at the same time enjoying the season of challenges is one of the best things that I remember. With all the techniques and activities within the session, I can say that I am a resolution driven person which is far from what I used to be.
I never really thought that I had let my fear and pain manipulate me and didn't know how to properly convert those painful events as a tool to embrace my inner strength. During the session she points out the importance of not making any excuses and not to settle for anything less.I never really get the value of time the way she points things out. If I knew everything that I had learned from this life mentorship years ago things would be so much different.
I can say that I am still a work in progress. I will not stop until I get the life that I deserve and will continue to progress and grow as an individual and become an inspiration not only to my family but also become a valuable part of my community.